[quote=“SilverArrow, post:19, topic:599”]Here’s something that I don’t understand about those who aren’t willing to check their language.
When you use words that you know could offend someone, you alienate people. No amount of “reasoning” is going to un-alienate them, especially when they have already stated that they find those words offensive. Their feelings are their own and it’s not up to you to say how they should feel. Is it really that important to be able to do things “your way” - so much so that you’d prioritize it over your relationships with other people?
What’s more difficult - checking your language, or undergoing the consequences of not checking it (i.e., losing group esteem)? What’s more in the spirit of rewilding - criticizing someone for expressing that they have taken offense (so that you can justify continuing to doing things your own way), OR acknowledging the relationship between the choices you make and the feelings of other people?
…And in this case, thereandback, who started this thread, did just that - (s)he (can’t remember the gender) let us know very clearly how (s)he felt when people use the word “bitch.” Given the history of the word (and anyone who has read this thread now knows its history), I think that refusing to refrain from using it shows a lack of serious commitment to gender equality.
Yes, words are arrangements of letters … arrangements which carry meaning. I guess you could choose to arrange letters in the shape of a wall separating you from other people or you could choose to arrange them in a more constructive way.[/quote]
SilverArrow,
Hm…may I ask you who…'cause this sure sounds like unsolicited advice aimed at the whole community and assuming a lot. Do you see what I mean?
I don’t know, to me the way you (Silver Arrow and not to single you out, this goes out to all you you-ers, ha ha, or should I say ‘us’ you-ers; unspecified ‘you’ users) use ‘you’ a lot in this last post makes me wunder if you have or haven’t spent some time acknowledging any of the notices our moderators posted on moving around using unsolicited advice and/or abandoning this kind of advice altogether for at least on this forum, and how the moderators also ask if someone perfers spreading unsolicited advice on forums we ask please at least leave this forum free of such advice?