i agree whole-heartedly - in a weird sort of way, this is the stuff that gets me going. i'm totally into learning how we can find a new way of being in the world, one that is more human and sustainable. and i know that this requires deep healing work because we have been very wounded. i guess whats exciting about it is that a sustainable way of being in the world, or, a rewilded one, is entirely human. how awesome is that!
willem and heyvictor - thanks for sharing. it is good to know that you see the value in feeling your emotions. i am glad to see that this perspective is part of this community because it's lack in the dominant culture and other communities is such a loss. not only are we wounded, but then we're told it's not okay to feel the pain - what a tiring dance!
what i like about the deep feeling approach is that for me it is about accepting what is there. i don't need to push myself, tell myself what i 'should' do/feel, etc, i just need to accept what is. in my case, that's a lot of pain, that when i connect with, comes out in various forms (tears, anger, movement, noise, etc).
i have a sense (which oscillates between crystal clear and vague) that i am in the process of working out some deep rooted issues that drive much of my present day behaviour. what is painful about having old wounds drive the present is that so long as i think that this person, or that place, of these ideas, ad infinitum, will make things okay, i will spend my life searching in disatisfaction because it's not about any of these. these are the distractions to cover the pain, because once i realize that it is not about the new skills, next training, the other person, etc, then the feelings surface and i must confront them. and herein lies the healing! i feel that i have spent much of my life searching for something which i will never be able to find. the sooner the ghost chase ends, the easier life will feel.
someone said to me recently, 'if you can't feel, you can't heal'. feeling is healing!
thanks for this dialogue!