To me staying positive has to do with trying to understand and becoming so at home in the sphere of intention that wants to be a force at work in conjunction with the ever present and forward moving solution to the unhealthy manifestations that working to be a healer is natural and effortless. It does not mean you know the slightest thing about what is unhealthy or how to be part of a solution, it means you want to. It means you love laughter, smiles, sound relationships, gratitude, and developments towards humanity. It means you think about what humanity is. It means you are concerned and taking steps instead of being selfish and looking out for number one at all times.
If you have a deep enough understanding you will see that the person you might be negative towards has a story and is doing something that you might have done had circumstances been different in your life.
If you understand you will see that you belong in the situation you are in and that with love and friends you can overcome and prosper. You will not be born
immortal Superman in a flawless utopia. You will die, you will cry, and you have the potential to love it all and make the majority of your time fun and free.
I can think of things that could happen that I would never be able to forgive and that if they occurred would always be a source of pain for me. It seems
flaky to say, “that pain is part of life and I can cherish the pain and that is still being positive.” I might never fully recover from certain events were they to make an appearance – there are aspects of my life that I consider so sacred that they must be inviolable for me to have any peace of mind and cheer of heart. So far I have not encountered anything that would make me negative the majority of the time.
I have been hateful and I have thought terrible thoughts and I have suffered. I never want to go back to that. I want to love. I want to say life is good and I want to assist in making it good for myself and others. I want to understand. I want to encourage and challenge and guide and protect and bless and edify and dance and sing and create and appreciate and celebrate and play and learn and connect and marry and liberate and share and mend and relieve.
I do not want to cut at the threads of life. I want to strengthen them and aid them in shining with vibrancy.
To me that is being positive.
All that having been written, I do not tell people, “Be positive”. I am not controlling by nature. I think the harm can be taken out of sorrow and anger and
I might make observations and ask questions that might act like steps in disarming a bomb when confronted with harmful sorrow or anger. I might say
something akin to what I have written here, trying to illuminate the nature of being positive as I see it. But I will not try to invalidate someone’s negativity or say how they ought to act instead.
For a lot of people “being positive” might entail just trying to sweep the ugly spirited parts of life under the rug instead of facing them head on. I do not think that is positive. If that is what you are encountering, and I get the idea that some of you (are any of you still here eight years later?) may have and that is why you are so upset. I thought I would try to show you another side of being positive. I hope it was a positive experience for you. I have another hope: I hope I read this in ten years and see faults in my rhetoric and have more to add.