Well, I reread what you wrote. Apparently, I'm a dumbass
A culture which separates a 'spiritual path' from a familial path has some fundamental problems that no amount of zen will address, I suspect.
Originally, I heard something totally different. But, now that we're re-evaluating here, What does that mean? I thought most 'Taker-type' cultures made marriage the ONLY spiritual path for the regular Jo.
How does Zen fail to address suffering, even in the most extreme of conditions? I tlooks within, it makes culture irrelevant, marriage irrelevant (to the individual).
However, I have been discovering at length with friends recently about this perception that mediation 'leaves you empty'.
Yes, the intial exercises are all about emptying. But the process of emptying is to discover all the things you have been taught that you have been acting upon without thought. It gives you the power to choose, from a place of emptiness, what you will fill your life with. All of us, having been raised in this culture, would benefit GREATLY if we were given tools that would help us reconstruct our reaction to reality, free of the bondage of the voice of the Parent, Judge, or whatever psychological tradition you adhere to. It's still avoice that has entirely too much power over we individuals.
Zen is really the only discipline I can speak to, but the emptiness is only the beginning, then, one must chop wood and carry water.