I didn’t mean “you” specifically, Willem, merely that a person or people can see those things a different way, and I wanted to emphasize that alternative.
You know, I already feel like my voice is totally DROWNED OUT in civ by people who, to me, seem totally obsessed and preoccupied by sex/sexual anatomy and prioritize it over things that I think are much more important and I HATE HATE HATE it when people expect me to participate in that culture.
I don’t understand it sometimes. I just do not. I feel like I have to be on guard all the time or I get ambushed out of nowhere. A couple of months ago I went to the farmer’s market and bought some baby spinach. It was so delicious. I love spinach and it was probably the best spinach I have ever tasted. I was seriously overjoyed with it. I decided not to wait to eat it, and I snacked on the leaves as I walked home. I am rarely in such a happy mood in the city so I walked slowly and decided to enjoy every moment of my spinach and my walk. Halfway home I heard a voice say “hi!” I turned around and saw that it came from the driver of a car that was inching down the street in rush hour traffic. I said in return, “hi!” wondering if maybe I knew him from somewhere. Customer at work maybe? (I’ve run into them in all sorts of places.) He said, “How’s it going?” and I said in all honesty, still caught up in my spinach and the beautiful weather, “Great! How about you?” He said, “good,” I said, “that’s good” and waved bye and walked on (by this time I was pretty sure I had not seen him before and I thought it was a little odd that he would just start up a conversation with a stranger, but I thought, that’s OK if he’s a little odd, I am myself, and I’ll never see him again). Well, I rounded the corner and after I had gotten about a block down the street his car came up and he and his friend propositioned me.
I don’t get it. How was I supposed to respond when he said hi? (“No”?) So what if I feel like having a brief exchange of friendly words? There was nothing suggestive about the way I was dressed either. Am I supposed to ignore everybody who says hello to me, just to avoid people like that? I let my guard down for four blocks and it’s like they can smell it. I think modern cities are HORRIBLE places to be in public.
Oh, another thing I don’t understand is that if I don’t want to express my sexuality around my co-workers, at work, in public (not in, say… the bedroom), then I must be some sort of Midwestern weirdo who needs liberation. (From what?! My chosen personal boundaries?!?)
I hate it when the mass media sexualizes objects, sexualizes everything. It contributes to the problem. How many times does the “you will never think of ‘X’ the same way again” joke repeat itself in the movie American Pie?
So maybe you can understand how valleys being vaginas and boulders being penises, according to indigenous tradition, put me in a reactionary state of mind. I am not interested in looking outside of my own body for something that is already there. Vaginas are not pies. Nor are they canyons. And if the Earth has a sex it is something completely different from XX or XY.